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The Power of Releasing Attachment to Outcomes With Ease!

Join 900+ ICONS mastering a life full of ease every Sunday while reading The Sunday Self-Trust Ritual (you’ll learn a bit more about business and relationships too). ​

Join 900+ ICONS mastering a life full of ease every
Sunday while reading The Sunday Self-Trust Ritual
(you’ll learn a bit more about business and relationships too).

The Power of Releasing Attachment to Outcomes With Ease!

If you want to manifest your desires with ease and joy, don’t attach yourself to the outcomes you want.

Why?

Because:

Attaching ourselves to the outcomes we want takes our attention away from our desires and puts it on trying to control something we can’t.

It’s simple.

You can control what you do to contribute to the outcome you desire and how you respond when the outcome shows up.

Everything else is outside your control!

Hola ICON,

Welcome to the Sunday Self-Trust Ritual! 

Each Sunday, I’ll help you learn and discover a pattern that might be looming in the shadows of your subconscious and drastically impacting your ability to manifest your next-level desires with ease.

Along with a ritual to support you in navigating this pattern with calm the next time you experience it.

This week is all about releasing the attachment to outcomes with ease which will put you on the fast track to:

  • Freedom and flexibility by opening yourself to new possibilities and opportunities. 
  • Improved focus by being in the present moment with more ease and flow.
  • Reducing stress by not worrying about what might happen. Instead being satisfied with the process and journey instead of solely focusing on the end result.

Here’s the thing:

You cannot control exactly how things will happen in your life.

When you choose to believe that you can control exactly how things will happen in your life and the timing of when they will happen,

  • The attachment to outcomes leaves you feeling frustrated and angry with yourself anytime you don’t experience what you want in the time you want it, in the way you envisioned it, and with the people you desired.
  • Over time frustration and anger overflows into your life, impacting how you act, meaning you start treating people differently.

You start putting the outcome on a pedestal and, above all else, including YOU.

Usually, this looks like:

  • Stress eating, 
  • Not being active, 
  • Feeling tired, scattered, 
  • .. and not feeling grounded.

You start being dismissive of others, ignoring your commitments, and getting annoyed and irritated easily.

Most people avoid these signals because they’ve convinced themselves that the outcome is most important.

Write this down in your journal:

What you resist, persists. 

The more you avoid this -, the more intense these feelings become. 

They will get louder and louder until you pay attention.

It can lead to feeling:

  • Defeated, 
  • Disappointed, 
  • Depressed and anxious, 

All signs that mean you’re not being your best self. 

Things can get pretty dark very quickly.

The attachment to outcomes also looks like this:

  • You don’t prioritize yourself,
  • You focus on people pleasing,
  • You overthink your decisions, 
  • You doubt yourself and your desires.

The Attachment to making $100K in 12 months!

When I began this business in 2018, I had one clear goal, 

Make $100K in 12 months.

Hitting Six figures has been portrayed as the holy grail in entrepreneurship, and when I began, I wanted in on the action.

Here’s what I didn’t know:

I didn’t know that obsessing about making $100K wasn’t serving me.

I thought that I had to do whatever it took to get it, even if that meant being unhappy with what I was doing and not having fun.

I subscribed to the grind mentality and convinced myself that I HAD to work hard to prove myself.

I became so attached to this outcome that I started defining my self-worth by how much money I made.

Before I ever reached $100K in 12 months, 

I had 11 months with $0 in sales. 

Each time I saw those $0s, I focused my attention on everything that was missing.

Here’s how that impacted me:

I felt less confident about myself, 

I felt frustrated with myself because I wasn’t getting the results,

I felt angry with myself because I was struggling to do the actions that would get me what I desired.

I felt tired. 

Tired of trying. 

Tired of rejection. 

Tired of disappointment.

The whole ordeal was exhausting and defeating.

Plus, I doubted myself the whole time,

Wondering:

  • “Am I good enough?”
  • “Do I have what it takes?”
  • “What if I have to get a job?”

Honestly,

I questioned myself a lot during that time because I had no idea how long it would take to hit my goal. 

This went on for three years!

Then in 2021,

I made the decision to release my attachment to making $100K in 12 months.

On March 2022, it happened.  

.. and you know what?

It took me 3 months to find out🤯.

Which is why I want to share this with you.

Decide to Be An Architect

Here’s what I do differently based on what I learned from this experience. 

Anytime I see myself being attached to an outcome, I acknowledge that I am presented with two paths. 

The path of the architect or the path of the victim. 

  • When I choose the path of the victim, I walk away feeling drained, powerless, hopeless, and defeated. 
  • When I choose the path of the architect, I walk away feeling empowered, aligned, excited, and energized.


… and even though I know this, there at times when I unconsciously choose the path of the victim,

Because that’s what humans do.

This is why it’s important that I’m constantly redirecting myself and aligning with the path of the architect over and over again, 

… which I’m going to share with you right now.

The Path of the Architect

First, I question why this goal is so important to me.
What does it represent, and why am I so attached to it? (usually, my sense of safety is being triggered). What do I want it to save me from?

Second, face the possibility that the outcome I desire can manifest in a way I didn’t envision. I remind myself that there are infinite possibilities to getting what I want; I’m only focused on one possibility. Here, I decide how I will show up if that happens.

Third, accept that whatever outcome I actually experience is the BEST outcome for me. Every interaction I have is an opportunity to learn how I act, so I can decide how I want to act. I learn as much as I can, amplifying what feels aligned and redirecting what doesn’t.

Fourth, take the next action I can control. ME. I focus on being in an inner state of harmony. Feeling my feelings, monitoring my thoughts, reprogramming my mind with new thoughts, and exposing myself to discomfort

The Joys of Releasing the Attachment to Outcomes

  • You put yourself and your desires first, no matter what.
  • You are present in the now with more ease.
  • You enjoy the journey as much as the destination.
  • You celebrate your wins and sit in the satisfaction.
  • You make decisions based on what brings you joy.

Why Am I sharing this with you:

I am sharing this note with you because there is power in letting go of the attachment to outcomes. 

When you attach yourself to outcomes,

You’re not aligned.

When you’re not aligned,

You’re not being your best self.

I know it is uncomfortable, especially when we really want something.
 
When your desires are linked with your sense of safety or security.
 
It can feel intense moving through that resistance and very uncomfortable.

At the same time, 

I KNOW that once you let go of the attachment,

You CREATE SPACE to receive the BEST outcome for you, and it comes to you with a deeper level of ease!

You focus your attention on what you can control, and you collapse the time it takes you to get it!

The Results:

You amplify the path of the architect and redirect the path of the victim anytime you spot it.

Over time the highs get higher and lows get higher, too!!

Once I stopped being mad about not making $100K in 12 months, 

I started seeing HOW I could do it while putting myself 1st!

I started manifesting this life with greater ease.

Remember:

When you focus on what you cannot control, you lose sight of what you can control. 

You can only control yourself: 

  • Your beliefs, 
  • Your thoughts, 
  • Your feelings, 
  • .. and your actions.

To master a life full of ease,

It all starts with removing your attention from the attachment to the outcome and redirecting it towards You.

Seeing all the ways in which You can manifest your life with ease.

Embodying your highest self with joy, kindness, and compassion along the way!

The Ritual of the Week: Be An Architect

1. Get Aware: Expand your awareness of how the attachment to outcomes impact you. We’ve done this step together✅

2. Self-AssesHow you are acting right now? Are you attached to the outcomes you desire? How is that impacting your quality of life?

3. Take Action: Use the Path of Architect. When you experience outcomes in your life (wins, failures, mistakes),  learn as much as you can from them, amplify what feels aligned and redirect what doesn’t.

Before I Go:

Inside of the Self-Trust School  we are getting ready to plan for ourselves into our year. I’m excited about honoring my commitment  to block off 1 week every month to rest!

Have you planned your rest into 2023 yet? Respond to the ritual and let me know!

See you next week,

To Your Life Of Ease!

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Hasta Luego!

Who is Yenory Pouncil?

I’m a mentor to ICONS focused on Self-trust and Success Mastery. I’m obsessed with all things leading to authentic self-mastery with ease and flow.

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What can I do if I am feeling anxious about the future, nory?

What can I do if I am feeling anxious about the future, nory?

Whenever we’re feeling anxious about our future, it is usually a sign that we’re not living in the present moment.

… and if you’ve ever felt worried about uncertainty,

You’re not alone.

A lot of people worry about the future; we want to make sure everything is going to be ok, no matter what life throws our way.

Here’s what I’ve found:

✅ If you want to release the anxiety that comes from thinking about the future and replace it with a sense of ease,

✅ It starts with grounding yourself in the present moment,

✅ In other words, letting go of what you can’t control.

Enter Self-Awareness:

Self-awareness is the first phase of the Self-Trust System!

  • When you know how you react to uncertainty, you can decide how you want to respond instead.

  • No matter how much time you spend thinking about the future, the only place where you can take action in the present moment.

  • By shifting your focus to what you can do now, you can begin to create the future you want at this moment.

  • Anxiety comes from focusing on what you can’t control, and ease comes from focusing on what you CAN.


The best part?

You can do this!

Focusing on what you can control is a skill, a muscle.

Trust me,

You can learn it and get better at it over time.

I’m curious:

What’s your biggest challenge releasing anxious feelings?

So let me know what’s your biggest challenge releasing anxious feelings in the comments below👇🏾.

I’d love to share a strategy to support you.

To Your Authenticity,

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Hasta Luego!

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What are your pre-requisites to feeling enough?

What are your pre-requisites to feeling enough?

So when I was an undergrad at RIT, I took some pre-requisite courses. Not many but some.

The data analytics series comes to mind, which was required for my Public Policy major. The pre-requisite was calculus which I prayed my way through because I barely passed pre-calc in high school.

I’ve never begged so hard for a 65 in my entire life, but my high school math teacher knew I needed to pass to graduate, and the Universe let me be great!

Anyways, whenever I’ve had to take a pre-requisite for anything in school, I’ve always known why I needed it, even if I didn’t understand it or like it.

One thing was clear; this is part of a path I’ve chosen for myself.

Today that got me thinking about  pre-requisites in other areas of my life,

Like,

What were my pre-requisites to:

✅ Feeling enough,

✅ Listen to my intuition no matter what,

✅ And trust myself to do the shyt that’s in my heart.

Here is what I thought they were:

  • Ask people around me if they thought it was a good idea,

  • Wait for people around me to give me permission to act,

  • Worry about what people would think of me,

  • Be afraid of failure and not getting it perfect on the first try,

  • Then take action, and keep it a secret until I reach my goal.

Here are the problems I ran into:

➡️ Projections. Anytime I asked people if they thought something was a good idea for me, they would project their beliefs onto me.

So they weren’t answering if it was a good idea for me. They were focused on if it was a good idea for them. We’re not the same person.

➡️ People can only give you what they have. So here I was waiting for people to give me permission to do what I desired, but those people weren’t doing that in the first place.

Talk about the blind leading the blind. I was asking the wrong person.

➡️ Approval. By putting the responsibility of making a decision on other people, I because a slave to their approval. So now, I was trying to please people instead of focusing on pleasing myself.

Since I didn’t want to disappoint them, I would do what they were doing. I would stay complacent, where it was safe even if I hated it there. Which, of course, meant I didn’t take action. 

💥 Here’s what I’ve learned:💥

If you want to trust yourself with consistency and silence the voices of self-doubt with grace, you have to shift your pre-requisites.

✅ First, accept you are enough! Being enough doesn’t mean you have all the answers right now or won’t need any help. It means you have everything you need to get to those answers and get the help you’ll need along the way. You are enough to execute your vision.

✅ Second, the only person who needs to give you permission is yourself. Why? Because people won’t deal with the consequences of your actions, whether you like it or not. So take the responsibility upfront, to avoid resentment and regret later.

✅ Third, do it scared. Fear-like discomfort is a sign that you are stretching yourself. You’re stepping into unknown territory. There is nothing wrong with going into the unknown, especially when you consciously choose to go there, following your intuition. Yes, it won’t always feel good at the beginning, but you will adapt. It is your human nature!

These steps are simple but not easy.

I know because I face this process daily. 

But you know what, you can do it.

Because You are Enough🥳!

Here is what I know that I know,

If you give yourself permission to trust your intuition no matter what, you’re going to feel free, excited, and more at ease in everything you do.

That’s what the Self-Trust System💎 is all about. 

You’ll feel empowered to live the life you envisioned for yourself with courage and consistency, even when it feels a little scary.

If you feel your heart guiding you to join us, the time is now.

The investment starts at $15,000 (payment plans are available).

Right now, we got 4 spots left.

Ready to take the next step?

To Your Authenticity,

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Hasta Luego!

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My client Janel Martinez was featured on Vanity Fair!

My client Janel Martinez was featured on Vanity Fair!

One of my favorite parts of working with powerful women,

Is celebrating their wins!

I’ve had the pleasure of working with Janel as her Self-Trust Catalyst since November 2019.

She started working with me because she desired to embody the most authentic and abundant version of herself with ease.

During our time together she’s hit a number of milestones, including:

  • More than doubling her speaking rates,
  • Expanded her capacity to receive money easily,
  • Released a number of borrowed beliefs that were holding her wealth hostage (i.e. I need to struggle to make money).

She recently completed 12 weeks of the Self-Trust System, where we focused on one thing:

Preparing her to quit a job she started last year, that no longer aligned with her intuition.

Her last day was September 30th!

Less than 30 days later, she was featured in Vanity Fair.

That’s what alignment and Self-Trust look like in action.

Watch the video below to learn more about
Janel's transformation!

If you’re ready to embody the most authentic and abundant version of yourself, apply for a spot in the Self-Trust System.

To Your Authenticity,

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Hasta Luego!

Unleash Your Best Self + Live A Life of Ease!

Master a life full of ease surrounded by ICONS committed to being the best version of themselves with joy, fun and enthusiasm.

7 Amazing affirmations to accept yourself when feeling anxious!

What are affirmations?

How do they work? 

How often can we use them?

These questions are the subject of today’s note.

Hola Mis Amores,

Today I would like to talk to you about affirmations.

You may have seen them on your Instagram feed,

Or perhaps you even have a whole board on Pinterest with a carefully curated collection of your favorites affirmations online.

Or maybe you have no idea what an affirmation is.

Either way, if you’ve ever been curious about affirmations, you’ll love today’s note.

And if your mind is already getting restless about how to get started, 

No need to worry!

Because I’ve included 7 affirmations designed to help you accept yourself whenever you are feeling anxious during the week.

Let’s dive in!

Affirmations are statements specifically designed to encourage and support your desired beliefs by grounding you in the present moment.

You see,

The mind is extremely powerful!

If you’ve ever felt anxiety (obsessing about the future) or depression (obsessing about the past),

You know first hand how quickly the thoughts in the mind can take a hold of you and shift your entire mood – even your life!

It’s important to understand that the mind is obsessed with problem-solving, and it will pull you towards that whether you have a problem or not.

Take a moment and think about a time in the last week when you felt amazing,

Got it? Great!

Now, how long did that feeling last?

1 minute? 5 minutes? 1 hour? The whole day?

Chances are that feeling didn’t last as long as it could have.

Here’s what I’ve found:

What does the mind do when you’re feeling amazing?

It will find a reason to worry, a problem to solve, if it doesn’t have one, guess what, it will create one!

This is what the Buddhists call a monkey mind. 

It jumps from one thought to another taking your attention with it every step of the way.

Why does this matter?

Any time you allow the mind to pull your attention at will, you remove your attention from the present moment and get stuck in your head.

You go on autopilot!

Every single second you spend in your head focused on imaginary or self-imposed perceived problems,

… is a second that you’re not spending in the present moment taking action to address the behaviors or circumstances that can help you achieve the life you envision for yourself.

What’s important to understand is that you can only take action in the present moment.

And affirmations have the power to pull you from the lure of the mind and ground in the present moment.

Like one of my favorite authors, Eckhart Tolle says:

All we have is the Now!

So how do affirmations work?

I think of affirmations as reminders of our true power.

They help us reconnect and strengthen parts of ourselves that we’ve surrendered out of fear of making a mistake or worry of not being good enough.

The best way to use affirmations is to recite them both in the mind and out loud anytime you’re feeling the mind enticing you with its problem-solving obsession.

Sometimes you’ll catch yourself stuck in your head after hours of ruminating or dwelling on a situation,

Other times you’ll notice the mind as it is getting ready to pull you in,

As soon as you’re aware that you’re stuck in your head, lean into one of these affirmations and feel each word in your body.

Concentrate on taking deep breaths and focus on the flow of energy within your body.

Become aware of your breath and watch how saying these affirmations quiets the mind in a kind and compassionate way.

Ready?

  1. I accept all parts of me, with kindness and compassion. I feel at ease.
  1. I accept that making mistakes is part of the learning process. I feel empowered.
  1. I am grateful for releasing the fear of failure. Failure is simply feedback and an invitation to try a different way. I feel grounded.
  1. I accept that learning can feel uncomfortable. I am grateful for giving myself permission to grow. I feel lighter.
  1. I accept that all I have is the NOW. I give it my full attention feeling enthusiastic and calm. 
  1. I accept that everything happening at this moment is here to help me manifest the deepest desires of my soul’s purpose. I feel present.
  1. I accept that I can only control myself, my thoughts, feelings, words, and actions. I feel joyful as I release any attachment to wanting to control others.

My hope is that each and every one of these affirmations will ground you in the here and now, and aid you as you build your self-trust.

Do you use affirmations

What are your go-to affirmations?

Please send them my way, after all, sharing is caring!

To Your Authenticity,
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Hasta Luego!

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How to stop giving up unconditional self-love in name of validation!

Hola Mis Amor,

How’s your spirit today?

Every Wednesday from 10 am – 12 pm; I have a date with myself.

If you do not have a standing date with yourself on your calendar at least once a week, I highly recommend it.

Checking your growth is a game-changer because it forces you to look at your progress based on your bigger goals.

In other words, it gets you out of the details and into the big picture so that you can remain both focused and encouraged.

I always make a list of the week’s biggest challenges and strategies to improve in the future.

It’s like hitting the reset button.

Do you ever check in with yourself during the week?

Believe it or not,

Most people rarely build time in their schedule to check on their spirit.

Which is usually a sign that,

… we’re not putting ourselves first.

Of course, this is normal.

And very common.

Here’s what happens when you do not prioritize yourself.

  • You struggle to believe in our ability to make your dreams a reality.
  • You do not trust your intuition with consistency
  • You trade unconditional self-love for validation.

If you want to break generational curses + leave a legacy of generational wealth,

Prioritizing yourself has to be a NON-NEGOTIABLE.

Because when you check in with yourself regularly, you’re less likely to feel overwhelmed and frustrated if everything doesn’t go as planned.

Without feeling overwhelmed, you can channel your energy + attention to what you want.

Taking consistent, intuitive action towards the life you envision for yourself!

Prioritizing yourself is part of cultivating your self-trust.

Because:

When you prioritize your needs, you give yourself permission to fail without feeling guilt or shame.

Prioritizing myself, has transformed my life and the life of my clients’.

Learning to believe in my abilities unconditionally helped me go from feeling confused and frustrated to calm and courageous whenever I feel uncomfortable,

Truly living the life I envisioned for myself!

Trusting myself with myself every step of the way.

When you trust yourself, you feel empowered to walk in your purpose without feeling paralyzed by overthinking and fear of failure.

If you’re struggling with prioritizing yourself, and your needs: 

The most important thing you need to understand is that having standing meetings with yourself is only a small part of an effective self-trust strategy. 

What you’re looking at here,

Is proven framework we use to help female founders unleash their self-trust in 90 days, without feeling paralyzed by overthinking or fear of failure, so that they can live the life they envisioned for themselves.

So I have one question for you?

What is your biggest frustration prioritizing yourself right now?

Please comment below  and let me know!

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