Podcast

How death inspires life with Death Doula Alua Arthur

You do the inner work, so you can do the outer work.

Alua Arthur

It was roughly 2 pm and I was laying on my living room couch, trying to take a nap. I was home early from work because I wasn’t feeling well. My body was feeling discomfort or pain.

The phone rang, I answered.

On the other end, there was a voice, crying, hurting, I could feel the pain from her tone:

She blurted out “They’ve killed him, they’ve killed our Califa”.

The voice belongs to my mother, and the call came almost three years go to date this week.

Califa was my favorite uncle, the only person who growing up, loved me unconditionally. I didn’t have to meet any expectation to enjoy his love, and his death introduced to me to new depths of suffering, suffering that later turned in to healing.

After this experience I wondered:

  • Why don’t we talk about death?
  • Why do we run away from it?
  • And how can we prepare for it in a more conscious and intentional way?

 

My guest today:

Alua Arthur has some answers, answers I know you will find helpful. 

A death doula, attorney and the founder of going with grace, end of life planning organization that exists to support people as they answer the question:

‘What must I do to be at peace with myself so that I may live presently and die peacefully?’ 

Together we had a raw conversation about how death brought us back to life. Somehow during this episode, there were tears, laughter, and healing. She opened up about being severely depressed, she shared how she defines being authentic and spoke about her work, the beauty, the challenge, and the surrender.

My hope for you is simple:

As you listen to this conversation, become a little less resistant towards death and allow it to inspire you to live.

 

Here’s what we’re going to cover in this episode:

  • Why people don’t talk about death.
  • How to get better at dealing with death.
  • How Alua knew she was severely depressed & what she did about it.
  • What happens when you do not pay attention to yourself and ignore feeling unfulfilled.
  • How to accept parts of you that you don’t like.
  • What is a death doula?
  • What’s the end of life planning?
  • What’s death meditation?
  • Why is silence so important and useful to healing.
  • The most challenging part of being a death doula.
  • When you should start making plans for the end of your life.

 

Recommended tools

Die Wise by Stephen Jenkinson

Meditation

Connect with Alua

Websites

Goingwithgrace.com

Instagram

@going_with_grace

 

Get ready to awaken your self-awareness about death, starting right now!

How to love yourself no matter freaking what with Laure Carter

Not having children has given me the freedom to fail because I didn’t have anyone depending on me.

Laure Carter

In today’s conversation, I sat down with Laure Carter, a subscriber, friend, listener and amazing woman. Through Ayurveda, Laure has improved her digestion, corrected her lifestyle habits, and managed her stress.

Before becoming an Ayurvedic Diet & Lifestyle coach she worked for 10 years as a holistic health coach, yoga teacher and licensed massage therapist helping men and women with symptoms ranging from weight gain, back, knee and neck pain to hypertension.

For the last 3 years, she’s helped women lose weight, gain confidence, clear up their skin problems, their PMS symptoms, their digestive troubles, and chronic constipation teaching them how to apply the strategies that she honed.

It’s not a diet, it’s a transformation and weight loss is a side effect!

She loves to work with women and support them to shine their light, speak their truth and reach for what they want!

Here’s what we’re going to cover in this episode:

  • What Laure learned about herself after not being in a romantic relationship for 13 years.
  • Choosing what she will compromise and what she will not.
  • Laure’s process of doing the work.
  • Getting to a place where she wasn’t so judgmental or self-critical.
  • Why it is so hard to love yourself no matter freaking what.
  • How to have more compassion with yourself.
  • The impact of generational conditioning in our lives.
  • Releasing the need to have it together.
  • Embracing sadness, when creating space for yourself.
  • The importance of having a mentor during your journey.
  • Why she started meditating at age 13.
  • How she deprogrammed herself so she can love herself no matter what.
  • The advice she would give the 30-year-old version of herself.
  • How Laure feels about not having any children at 50.
  • Understanding and training your free will.
  • What is Ayurveda, how it works and how to get started.

Connect with Laure

Websites

LaureCarter.com

Instagram

@laure_lifestyle

10 ways being more self-aware has improved my life

Facing your reality and learning things about yourself can really put you in a position of vulnerability and honesty.

Nory Pouncil

This solo episode belongs to the Tea Time with Nory, podcast edition.

Tea Time with Nory is an intimate look at Nory’s life, & updates from iAmHealthyFit. Released once a month, these shorter episodes allow listeners to connect with Nory and learn about how she keeps herself unstuck.

In today’s episode, Nory shares 10 ways being more self-aware has improved her life. She talks about how her obsession with perfection has kept her from releasing podcast episodes, and how she has become less stressed, anxiety and worry about to future. In the process, she became more present, more joyful and in love with life.

10 ways being more self-aware has improved my life:

  • Less stress.
  • Less anxiety.
  • Less worry about the past.
  • Less worry about the future.
  • Not taking things personally.
  • Being more present.
  • More living in the moment.
  • More self-trust.
  • More surrender.
  • More Joy.

The uncomfortable truth about postpartum depression with Tiffany Stuart

We just need to start to prioritize ourselves, even in that space [motherhood]. I know now that if I don't do well by me, I can't do well for anyone else in this house.

Tiffany Stuart

In today’s episode I sat down with Tiffany Stuart, you may know her as “it’s me Lady G”, from itsmeladyg.com: a lifestyle, beauty, wellness and mommy blog dedicated, to making healthy, natural, fearless living, less intimidating and sustainable in real life.

Tiffany is a veggie loving mom of 2, internationally published blogger, recipe developer, brand consultant, contributor to the Huffington Post, the Non-GMO project and other health & wellness brands. She’s also a certified integrative nutrition holistic health coach.

Tiffany’s mission is to help other women embrace themselves, their power, & ultimately become their own educated health & wellness advocate.

During our conversation, we discussed her experience with postpartum depression through both of her pregnancies. She shared what it was like to put herself first while raising her children without rushing their growth.

We even got into how the pressure to breastfeed can at times contribute to postpartum depression and what were the signs she identified before and after pregnancy.

Here’s what we’re going to cover in this episode:

  • Dealing with postpartum depression during the first pregnancy.
  • Dealing with postpartum depression during the second pregnancy.
  • How Tiffany acknowledged the signs.
  • Using books and tools as a new mom without obsessing.
  • How moms rush the growth of their babies.
  • The negative impact of the breastfeeding movement.
  • Finding what works for you and your child.
  • What some men expect from women after giving birth when it comes to intimacy.
  • Not giving in to the snapback demands of society.
  • How to show up for yourself and do what’s best for your mental health.
  • Her advice to anyone struggling with postpartum depression or to their partner.

Connect with Tiffany

Websites

itsmeladyg.com

Instagram

@itsmeladyg

Do you ever feel like you’re not good enough?

What are the things I am currently doing right now that are keeping me from who I am meant to be because I am so focused on who I think I need to be so that people will love me?

Nory Pouncil

This solo episode belongs to the Tea Time with Nory, podcast edition.

Tea Time with Nory is an intimate look at Nory’s life, & updates from iAmHealthyFit. Released once a month, these shorter episodes allow listeners to connect with Nory and learn about how she keeps herself unstuck.

In today’s episode, Nory shares what her healing journey has been like as a business owner, her experience at the BYOB Retreat! One of our awesome listeners gets a shoutout! Nory does a deep dive into what she learned from spending a day crying in her office dealing with feelings of not being good enough!  

Here’s what we’re going to cover in this episode:

  • Why healing doesn’t come easy.
  • The power of running towards the pain.
  • What I learned from spending a day crying in my office.
  • How you miss out on growth.
  • Fan-love segment.
  • The root of not feeling like you’re good enough.
  • It’s time you disappoint people.
  • The cost of hiding your true self.

Tools

BYOB Retreat

The evolution of a man with Ilbert Sanchez

I am learning not to apologize for how I feel.

Ilbert Sanchez

In today’s episode, I sat down with the one and only Ilbert Sanchez. Born and raised in Honduras until the age of six, Ilbert J  Sanchez moved to New York City not knowing how vastly his life would change.  He quickly learned to navigate his way through new customs and setting his eyes on the American Dream.

Ilbert overcame cultural differences and challenges as he excelled in art and design.  After receiving his Bachelor’s of Arts in Graphic Design from the Fashion Institute of Technology, Ilbert realized that in order to achieve his dreams, it would take great risks.

His personal mission of helping young men learn and grow is evident in his various speaking engagements and initiatives with schools all over New York City, New Jersey, and Philadelphia. 

During this episode, we discuss Ilbert’s evolution as a man. From why he struggled to be vulnerable, to how his relationship with his mother impacted his availability to other women and the prep work he did while being single for two years.

We even got into the culture shock of moving the United States to pursue the American dream, and how getting fired helped him find his purpose.

Here’s what we’re going to cover in this episode:

  • The culture shock of being an immigrant black man in America.
  • How Ilbert’s mom has impacted his journey.
  • How Ilbert learned he wasn’t fulfilled.
  • The set back that helped him find his purpose.
  • What it was like to be vulnerable at the lowest point in his career.
  • How he knew he needed to go to therapy.
  • The prep work he did while being single for 2 years.
  • The importance of communication & transparency in his new relationship.
  • His feelings as a black man in America.
  • How he overcame his fear of failure.
  • His advice to the younger version of himself.

Connect with Ilbert

Websites

Garcon Couture

Instagram

@ijaysanchez

Resources

Momentum Education

Preparing for Motherhood after 30 with Tonya Rapley

I remember wondering, am I ever going to go to a happy hour again? Am I ever going to go to brunch? I didn't know if I was built for this.

Tonya Rapley

In today’s episode, I sat down with the one and only Tonya Rapley. Tonya Rapley is an internationally recognized millennial money expert, mompreneur, and founder of the award-winning site, My Fab Finance.

She is the author of the Amazon best-seller, The Money Manual: A Practical Guide To Help You Succeed on Your Financial Journey and co-host of the Color Full Lives podcast with Angela Yee (The Breakfast Club)  and Aminatou Sou (Call Your Girlfriends).

In 2014, she graced the cover of Black Enterprise magazine and was deemed the “New Face of Wealth Building”. Her mission is to help millennials break the cycle of living paycheck to paycheck so that they can live lives they love

During this episode, we discuss all things motherhood. From, why she didn’t want children earlier in her life, to what is like to be a new mom in her 30s, and the importance of being at peace with yourself before you have a baby.

Tonya also opened up about her fourth trimester and everything she did to prepare for this new chapter.

Here’s what we’re going to cover in this episode:

  • Why Tonya went from not watching any children to being madly in love with her son.
  • Raising a baby as an entrepreneur.
  • What is like to be a new mom after 30.
  • The importance of being at peace with yourself before having a baby.
  • Getting through healing after pregnancy.
  • Why she wondered if she was built for this.
  • The process of getting a nanny for a 6-week old baby.
  • The importance of building your tribe.
  • The questions you need to ask yourself when building your tribe and assessing your relationships.
  • How she prepared for motherhood.
  • Why she didn’t see her pregnancy as a disability.
  • Her experience with a midwife.
  • Her advice to anyone who is considering having a baby after 30.

 

Connect with Tonya

Websites

My Fab Finance

Tonya Rapley

Instagram

@tonya.rapley

Book

The Money Manual: A Practical Guide To Help You Succeed on Your Financial Journey  

How to break free from your anxiety & take control

I was feeling frustrated. I barely made it to the gym, and when I did, I was thinking about the 20,000 things I could have been doing while I was supposed to get myself in shape.

Sharon Guity

In today’s episode, I sat down with a friend, turned client, Sharon Guity. Sharon is an amazing spirit. She’s a loving wife, mother of two, passionate about understanding her self, and committed to love herself no matter what, living in NYC.

During this episode we discussed in detail how Sharon got unstuck in her life which resulted in arguing less with her husband, spending more time with her son and spending 2 hours every day with herself planning and reflecting on her day.

Here’s what we’re going to cover in this episode:

  • How being stuck manifested in Sharon’s life.
  • Sharon’s experience with therapy.
  • Her unhealthy relationship with expectations.
  • Why she struggled to find healing on her own.
  • Why the laundry was stressing her out.
  • How she stopped worrying about the things that didn’t happen.
  • Her biggest challenge in getting unstuck.
  • How her life changed after working with Nory.
  • Sharon’s advice to the version of herself that was hurting.