You’re a Phoenix
The Four Stages of Self-Awareness “framework” unveils how you respond to discomfort, and what you can do to live with intention. By asking this simple question, we can get to know a lot about ourselves. We can treat ourselves with more kindness, compassion, and love.
Before you review your results:
The Four Stages of Self-Awareness “framework”, describes a cycle, we all experience when facing discomfort. If you look hard enough at your life, you’ll discover moments when you behaved like a Lotus, Survivor, Warrior, or Phoenix.
Even though the stages move in a cycle, no stage is better or worse than another. Each stage teaches us something different about ourselves; they work together to help us become more self-aware. They help us learn how we currently act so we can decide how we WANT to act.
So what does it mean to be a Phoenix?
The Phoenix Stage symbolizes surrender, trust, and re-awaken. Coming out of the Warrior stage, they’ve learned how to partner with discomfort to achieve their goals. They’re free from the attachment to specific outcomes, which breathes new life into their day-to-day.
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The Phoenix Stage recognizes your enthusiasm to choose Yourself & Let Go. As the fourth stage of self-awareness, you’re learning to be more self-aware by seeking out discomfort and sitting with it on purpose. You’re preparing for a new cycle.
At this stage, Phoenixes know the uneasiness of feeling uncomfortable. But unlike earlier stages, they’re equipped to move forward, feeling confident and excited that they can still take action. This behavior is normal for the Phoenix. They’ve spent the most time with discomfort and are familiar with it.
Phoenixes optimize their life to feel deeper levels of fulfillment, joy, and inner peace. They’ve developed routines to help them move beyond their challenges and joyfully embrace discomfort to tap deeper into their overall power.
You are the embodiment of a Phoenix.
What's Your Superpower?
The Power to Receive
Phoenixes have a deep desire to be present. Even when feeling lost or stuck, they know that they can create a life where they feel more self-aware, have long-lasting inner peace with their feelings, and be in the present moment even with discomfort.
Phoenixes want to surrender what they can’t control to a Higher Power/God with action. They’re enthusiastically getting deeper into their growth. Phoenixes understand that the deeper they get, the harder it is to remove past patterns that have been around for decades. They view this as an invitation, to accept responsibility for releasing what no longer serves them, take consistent action, and let go of the rest to God.
Phoenixes want to live the life they envisioned for themselves, knowing that they can make anything happen and taking the necessary actions every day, with the help of the discomfort. They yearn for the unshakable faith that God/Divine is on their side. Their Power to Receive despite feeling uncomfortable is their secret weapon to living life feeling confident, clear, grateful, and courageous.
If Phoenixes want to be present even with discomfort, they must harness their power as often as possible.
Because sometimes Phoenixes can forget that receiving is also part of the process.
The Two Types of Phoenixes
There are two types of Phoenixes: the Reactive Phoenix and The Responsive Phoenix.
The Reactive Phoenix tends to fixates on self-created timelines and struggles with accepting the pace of their journey. The Responsive Phoenix, on the other hand, accepts the process with humility, chooses to move at their pace with enthusiasm, and honors their core values with every decision, especially when feeling uncomfortable.
Most people go back and forth between the two. If you’re reading this, you’re currently a Responsive Phoenix!
For the most part, Phoenixes struggle with wanting to move faster. Even though they have time to recharge without focusing on how others will feel, Phoenixes are eager to manifest as many elements of their dream life as possible, which breeds discomfort. They’ve worked very hard for an extended period of time to get here, and they know it’s so close they can taste it. When facing this challenge, it is a sign that Phoenixes are being more reactive than responsive.
This frustration is usually a sign that Phoenixes aren’t being patient with themselves. Without practicing compassionate patience, they constantly punish themselves for “still making mistakes” and not getting to where they want to be by snapping their fingers. Without acknowledging that they’ve done everything they can control, and the next step is surrendering the rest to God – Phoenixes struggle to achieve what they want the most – be present and receive the fruits of their labor.
It’s important to know that Phoenixes can move beyond these potential challenges. They can continue to be the architects of their lives, be at peace with themselves and genuinely feel happy being present in their lives. It all comes to being more patient.
Helpful Next Steps
If Phoenixes want to improve their tools, routines and habits, they must start with being more patient with themselves when discomfort shows up – carefully review what consistently works for them.
When Phoenixes review their routines, it is a sign that they are open to surrender and trust God by releasing what they can’t control. They’re grateful for the opportunity to put down the burden of feeling like “they shouldn’t be making these mistakes by now”. They feel lighter than ever and closer to the life they want. They love themselves unconditionally for who they truly are.
They carefully analyze the routines they’ve mastered and use them to improve the ones they’re still struggling with, especially those that feel uncomfortable. They become more responsive than reactive.
Phoenixes tend to resist this process because they don’t know where to begin. Like cleaning a closet for the first time in years, they may feel overwhelmed, confused, and uninterested.
The best place to start is by trusting your process and celebrating your progress along the way.
Here’s my simple 5 step-by-step method to practice self-patience and get started. Yes, answering these questions might feel a little uncomfortable, that’s ok, try it anyway!
- Where do you feel you’re rushing yourself the most right now? (ex: my healing, career, romantic relationships, friendships, family, etc.)
- What is it about this specific area of your life, that makes you feel you should be further ahead? (ex: the time I’ve invested, amount of work I’ve done, the changes I’ve implemented, etc.)
- Outline the progress you’ve made in this area of your life, since deciding to work on it? (ex: depressed → feeling inner peace, frustrated → having clarity, stuck → taking action etc.)
- Is there anything else you can control in this situation, that you haven’t done? (ex: improving my weekly planning, revising morning routines, consistently eating healthier, upleveling workouts, etc.)
- What can you release to God/Higher Power? (ex: wanting to control what I can’t, feeling that I need to rush my life, trusting my process, etc.)
Bonus: For the next 30 days – focus on doing one thing you can control in this area of your life and releasing one thing to God. Use that information to spot patterns that help you Thrive!
When we take time to practice more self-patience, we find the routines in our arsenal that work best for us. We tend to focus on what’s not going our way instead of what is. By focusing on optimizing your systems, you keep your attention on what you can control and take action with ease, even when feeling discomfort.
It is the only way to feel fulfilled and feel happy about our state of being!
The Phoenix Stage culminates a cycle of growth and signals the beginnings of another. It’s a beautiful stage and includes its fair share of discomfort. Phoenixes must remember that to make room for the new. They must release the old, without rushing ourselves. After all, that’s what they want the most. To grow freely, knowing their heart is at peace with each stage of the process, no matter how intense it may feel because rebirth is always around the corner.
The 4 stages of self-awareness explains how we respond in the presence of discomfort.
Got questions about you results?
If you would like to review your patterns or want any help completing this exercise, I have a special gift for you.
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I’ll help you understand the source of your discomfort so that you can have a clear direction for your life. All while unapologetically putting yourself first, feeling confident, and being truly comfortable in your own skin.
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MEET YOUR GUIDE
I believe that mastering your self-awareness is the KEY to unlocking your dream life. So I am committed to helping release limiting beliefs, and patterns that keep you from feeling a sense of fulfillment, or wholeness.
I went from feeling depressed, lost and disoriented for 8 months to living my dream life, helping ambitious souls get a clear direction for their lives, take action with confidence and feel more joy & long-lasting inner peace.
I developed the Four Stages of Self-Awareness framework as a faster, natural and intuitive process for getting on the driver seat of your life, making decisions rooted in what truly unleashes your most authentic self
I show you how to build the bridge between you and your dream life – by closely identifying the gaps that need to be filled.
I’m also a reading addict, tea-drinking, pole dancer obsessed with Dragon Ball Z and all things leading to authentic self-mastery!
PS: Prior to starting my own business, I was a Director of Communications advocating for worker rights at the National Association of Workforce Boards and served with college prep for underrepresented students at the Harlem Children’s Zone.